Monday 10 October 2011

Turning 40

According to the 2011 Fundamentals of Nursing text by Wilkinson and Treas,
"The middle years can be a satisfying time of role fulfillment, career success, financial security, and social comfort".
"Nevertheless, some adults experience emotional strain during this period while coping with passing of youth and inevitability of old age. Because the middle years can be a time when career expectations call for peak performance and financial success, it can also be a time of self-doubt triggered by the changes of aging, menopause, empty nest, death of parents, or change in career life or relationships."
"Some adults in the middle years suffer a mid-life crisis, which is a period of intense questioning about the meaning and direction in life, asking what brings personal fulfillment. Adults battling mid-life crisis might display signs of depression, anxiety, or rebellion from the status quo".
Here was the answer to my first blog... an actual definition of what a mid-life crisis feels like. I had to check off all the symptoms on my list because I exhibited most if not all of it.

Tomorrow is my birthday and I never felt more alone or sad than I do now. I thought turning 40 was just like any other birthday, you celebrate and move on. My mom suggested getting Botox to get rid of wrinkles as a birthday gift to myself, I frowned and told her she was the one causing my wrinkles. I scoffed at the idea of Botox and told her 'aging gracefully' was my philosophy.

I was feeling sad all day today and no matter what I do, I can't shake the feeling off. What lies ahead of me? Is 40 the point of no return? I have 2 older sisters who look amazing despite their age. My sister Liza has 4 kids and still has the body of a 20 year old (this is her actual pic after 4 kids)....

Some women can carry age well, while others like myself need Botox, a personal trainer and Oprah's chef :(

Sunday 2 October 2011

I don't know what I'm doing, seriously people.

I didn't realize 2011 was the year I would go back to school and pursue this avenue in Education. What am I doing? I never saw this coming from my December 2010 horoscope. I envisioned myself getting ready to retire and just moving back to a quiet, tropical island and living the last few years of my life in peace... not going back to school at my age! This must be a symptom of what they call a "mid-life crisis".  

It all started when I came back from a 2 month vacation, visiting family in the Philippines. I left Canada on November 30, 2010 and returned January 31, 2011. I was happy that my 21 year old daughter, Mikhaela, finished her Masters Degree in Foreign Affairs and wants to be a Diplomat working for the United Nations. She is such a smart girl, accelerated in grade school and class president in her elementary and high school classes. She definitely inherited that from her father.

My trip was also sad because I said my final good-bye to my grandmother in the hospital. She was the "mother" I looked up to. She raised me since I was 10 months old and took over my care when I was hospitalized for german measles and laying in an oxygen tent. My grandma was a physician and an officer of the Philippine Women's Medical Association. She had 8 children, my dad was 3rd in line. All her kids grew up to be successful professionals but nobody wanted to become a doctor like her. I always knew she wanted someone to inherit her medical practice but nobody followed in her footsteps and it made her sad. I wanted to become a doctor but my dad refused to help me with the tuition cost and this was a big factor. I decided to become a nurse instead because it is still within the medical field and maybe someday I can take my PhD, I can still be Dr. Michelle Dixon right? 

I started thinking if I should go back to school and pursue my love of law, ethics and human rights. After all, I already took the LSAT after Nursing school because I wanted to jump right into law school. Sadly, student loans prevented me from realistically pursuing this passion. I had to start working.
I decided to take a "dip" in the education pool again this year by taking my Provincial Instructors Diploma (PID) program at Vancouver Community College. I enrolled in the PID program in February 2011. I also saw the link VCC had on their website for the MEd program at SFU. I was interested in the MEd justice, law and ethics program but thought my career in Nursing education would benefit more if I take the Health Education focus instead. It was March 2011 already so I had approximately 4 days before their admission deadline to submit all the requirements for the MEd program. I challenged myself and did everything I can to gather all the necessary documents and submitted it on time to SFU. Now I am an official MEd HEAL student! This time I want to make my daughter and grandma proud of me. 

I envisioned my first day of class with horror... I imagined walking into a room of smart, keen, summa cum laude grads sitting in an auditorium-type classroom, everyone typing in their fancy laptops answering the stern professor's questions. I saw our professor's name via an email Linda Milum sent and immediately thought, hmmmm.. Dr. Stephen Smith sounds like a 75 year old, white-haired genius professor with thick eyeglasses who may be related to Thomas Edison. I had nightmares and panic attacks weeks before September 16.

I was pleasantly surprised to see Dr. Smith when he greeted me with a warm smile at the door, that first day of class. He didn't even wear glasses, just for reading and he carried a backpack, not a briefcase... whew! Thank you God.